“British Columbia Anger Expert” visits our Habitude™Men’s Residence
We have been truly blessed with a great opportunity and want to share it with our Alumni. A gentleman by the name of Merv Malish offered to come to Turning Point’s Habitude™New Men’s Residence, and facilitate an Anger Group for our present and past clients. We had a fantastic groups of guys…. some brand new clients, some a week into the program, and some further along in the program. A few that attended were our alumni guys who made the time to drop in and spend some time with us.
Merv was open and honest and connected with everyone. Although it appeared he was speaking to the group for the 1st time…. we soon realized he was a seasoned speaker and his deep pauses and stories were all very methodical allowing each and every guy to bond with Merv very quickly. Emotions ran deep when he talked about his personal challenges, his missed opportunities, and his gratitude for his life today.
Everyone connected with his journey, and it was impossible not to embrace his new found compassion for life and the lives of others. With over 30 years of recovery under his belt, he still remains humble and grateful for his experiences.
We cannot thank Merv enough for taking the time to share his story with our Habitude™Family. We would also like to share this with you all too.
My name is Neha and I am a victim services worker here in Surrey. We met briefly on January 21, 15 at the Substance Use and Domestic Violence Workshop. I was so incredibly moved by your story and courage. I came and spoke to you briefly afterwards to thank you for your honesty and acknowledge the immense amount of courage and strength that it took for you to tell your story in front of so many people. I am not sure if you will remember me but that it is okay in any case.
This past Sunday, March 8th, SFU hosted a dialogue on DV called Meri Awaaz (which translates into “My Voice” from Punjabi) for International Womens Day. I was graciously invited to be a panelist at this event. Nearing the end of the event a gentlemen from the audience came to microphone to express his thoughts. This man was larger than life at over 6 ft 5 inches and built of a more heavier set. This man was incredible! He spoke so courageously of his own trauma history and his perpetration of violence. He didn’t say his name but he did mention names of people who helped him on his road of rehabilitation. He talked about his positive police experience with an Officer Swallow from Delta PD, Crown Counsel Winston Sayson, and then he mentioned how inspired he was by you….Merv Malish. When I heard your name I felt so privileged to have bared witness to your story and to have had the opportunity to bare witness to this man’s story. I don’t know if you happen to remember who this man is but he was truly remarkable and his story will resonate with me forever, as will yours. Before anybody had a chance to respond to him he left the auditorium because he was overwhelmed with emotion. I don’t know if I will ever have the chance to thank this man but I wanted to share with you that he mentioned you and you played a role in him turning over a positive leaf in his life.
Thank you Merv sincerely for the most incredible work that you do.
Neha Huggins, Community-Based Victim Support Worker w/ Surrey RCMP DVU
The YAd’s Program helps multi-barriered employment disadvantaged young adults ages 15 to 30 to develop a broad range of skills, knowledge and work exposure that will lead to a successful transition into the labor market. On March 17/06, Merv presented his life story to our program participants. Merv has the ability to speak with great depth and honesty; communicating the value he has received in sharing the self-reflective transformation of his troubled past. Spoken from a place of experience, Merv relates his step-by step journey with conviction and sensitivity. The YAd’s program participants responded with warmth and acceptance, inviting him to return and ‘hang with them’. They were comfortable in his presence and felt open enough to trust him with their comments and questions. I would not hesitate to invite Merv back again for another round circle, or for him to participate during other projects or events connected with the YAd’s program.
Marion Prochnau, YAd’s Program Coordinator.